My husband joked, I should add a poop joke to the post. Cause this shit is about to get real. He’s probably right, and it’s too much for a Wednesday afternoon in July from a parenting blog.
But I gotta write, what I gotta write. So here it goes.
There are people you meet in life that cause you to drop to your knees and soak in their knowledge. Authors who can see beyond the veil of normalcy into the world that’s within our reach, but we ignore. People who have experienced life and don’t keep what they learned to themselves. And if you listen, really listen, they open up a pathway to a life you didn’t think possible.
Who are the people you sit with?
I have just discovered Frederick Buechner. If it wasn’t for Rob Bell’s blog, I would have filed him away with old white guys the minister mentions.
I heard what he said, but never heard what he said. Has that happened to you?
And then I read this quote.
“Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace.
- Frederick Buechner
All moments are key moments, and life itself is grace. Is there anything more beautiful than that?
Sometimes I think we teach our kids that life, in order to matter, needs to be good. That we need the best schools, the best team, the best teachers. We need to win, in order for our lives to have purpose. And in a world that tells us bigger is better, here is a man who says, No. In your pain, in your sadness, in the mundaness of life, that is a key moment. And if every moment makes our life precious, how does that change how we live?
I want to wrap my kids with this belief. Because if they internalize this, maybe they won’t ever think they are less than. Maybe they won’t struggle with self image, or self doubt, or sheer terror when faced with the behemoth of life.
If they can be okay with the moment they are in, they will be okay no matter what they face. And that is what I want for them more than money or success. I want them to look at their life and be present. Lift up the edges of what they see to what matters underneath (Thanks for that image Rob Bell!) I want them to understand how precious and hard life is, because that is what makes it so damn beautiful.
I don’t want them to discard this moment for something better, because what they have right now, is something pretty awesome.
If they take the time to look for it.